32. Will the birth mother be able to see the baby in the hospital?
Yes, very definitely! This baby is hers, she has the rights of any other parent. We encourage her to see the baby and spend time with him/her while in the hospital. These can be special moments and special memories.
33. Are the birth mother’s parents, friends, father of the baby, etc. allowed to see the baby?
Certainly! We would encourage it and would like pictures of all with the baby in these special times.
34. Can the birth mother have a picture of her baby?
Definitely! We encourage her to have pictures taken of herself with her baby also.
35. Will she be able to have a visit with her baby before she signs the adoption papers?
Yes, very definitely! We encourage her to spend quality time with her baby while in the hospital.
36. Can the birth mother name her baby, and will the adoptive parents keep the name she chooses?
Yes, she may name the baby. We encourage her to do so. New Life families agree to use that name as one of the child’s names. New Life recognizes the importance of a name. We are shown throughout the Bible the value that God places upon names. We believe that a name given to a child by his/her birth parent is a gift that can never be taken from that child.
37. If the birth mother chooses to place her baby with a New Life family, what minimum communication with the family is the birth mother assured of?
All New Life families agree to meet with the birth parents during pregnancy, at the time of placement and again when the child is 6 or 7 months old. All New Life adoptive families agree to send pictures, letters, and a developmental report every month for the first six months and twice a year after that (usually Christmas and the child’s birthday) for 18 years. All written communication is sent to New Life. New Life does not share the adoptive family’s last name or address. After the six-month visit most of our adoptive families desire to continue meeting with the birth parent(s) because they understand the importance for everyone involved. Any communication, contact, or visitation with the child is dependent on the adoptive parents’ consent, and such consent is not legally guaranteed, but it is a promise they make to the birth families because they understand the benefit to everyone involved.
38. What may the birth mother send to her child (gifts, papers, books, etc.), and will she have the assurance that her child will get these items?
A letter from you explaining your reasons for choosing adoption will be a treasure that your child will cherish through the years. Most birth families send gifts at Christmas and birthdays. We encourage birth family letters and pictures on a regular basis to help the child and the family to know of your love and concern. The assurance you have that your child is receiving what you send comes from your conversations and relationship with the adoptive family.
39. If for some reason there is an accident and the child’s adoptive parents are killed, will the birth parents then be responsible for the child and would they have that option if they so desire? No.
40. What if the health of one of the adoptive parents changes?
New Life will attempt to share information about developing genetic conditions, terminal illness, or death of any persons involved in the adoption triad (birth parents, adoptive parents and adoptee) with the other parties.
41. Will the child be able to get information about the birth parents if she/he desires?
Yes, it’s definitely our goal. It depends largely on the birth parent maintaining contact with the adoptive family and agency through the
42. If a child is placed for adoption, can the child find the birth parents at age eighteen?
We keep our own registry for children placed through New Life.
43. In the years to come, if the child searches for his/her birth mother, would the agency contact her before the child does?
Yes. It is important for you to keep New Life informed of your current address.
44. Can the birth mother find her child if she decided she wanted to search for him/her?
That depends on the child, the family, the circumstances and the age of the child. If the child is eighteen and is open to meeting with his birth mother, the agency would seek to facilitate that meeting.
It is our goal at New Life that birth parents and adoptive families maintain contact at least twice a year so that a search is not necessary as the child approaches adulthood.